Does pornography kill love?


A girl from Texas, now a devout Christian living in Dallas Forth Worth first saw porn at the age of ten. She then secretly became addicted in her teens and early20s allowing herself to become addicted and allowing it to negatively affect her sexual relations with her partners.

Today, Chiara is a lifestyle blogger, letterer and digital marketer in her late 20s. She’s also a recovering porn addict, an observant Christian living in the Dallas/Fort Worth area and a public supporter of #PornKillsLove (PKL), a social media-based anti-porn campaign organized by anti-porn activist group Fight the New Drug.

Love is essentially edited out of pornography and it edited a false transaction, the reactions are over accentuated and it gets no deeper than the noises and profiling. The nonprofit organization’s stated mission is to ‘raise awareness on the harmful effects of pornography through creative mediums,’ one of which is #PornKillsLove. They have over 21,000 followers on Twitter too.

Chiara, has been porn-free for over two years now and doesn’t let occasional slips derail her commitment. She is celibate and a reborn virgin and is also active in her church’s addictions ministry. Most importantly, she seems really happy.

For more information about PKL visit here.

LYP says: The notion that women can be addicted to pornography is new concept to most people in society but in fact the statistics in the USA state that 30% of pornography addicts are women. Sadly we don’t have those statistics for the UK yet, but we wouldn’t be surprised if it was close to that here in UK. When we teach in schools we are beginning to see an increase in girls admitting to reading about pornography through sexual literature. This is not unusual because of how different the brain works with girls compared to boys. We wonder whether there’s enough information and support for women who are addicted to pornography. LYP has developed a specific girl/women pornography awareness course due to the increase of young girls needing just as much support as boys.  

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Porn useage – Quantity vs. Treatment Level

A new study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, looks at the factors that drive people into treatment for problematic porn use.

The scientist, Dr Gola wants to determine if the frequency of porn use or consequences related to porn use is more important. Unsurprisingly, when diagnosing and treating porn addicts the amount of porn a person uses is considerably less relevant than his or her porn-related consequences.

Preoccupation to the point of obsession with highly objectified pornographic imagery, and loss of control over the use of pornography, typically evidenced by failed attempts to quit or cut back. Negative consequences related to porn use can be diminished relationships, trouble at work or in school, depression, isolation, anxiety, loss of interest in previously enjoyable activities, shame, and sexual dysfunction with real world partners, financial woes, legal issues, etc.

As you may have noticed, none of these criteria mention how much porn a person is viewing. Porn addiction is comparable to substance addiction disorders where it’s not how much you drink/use, it’s the impact that drinking has on their lives.

In recent years, of course, we’ve seen numerous studies linking the amount of porn use to potential negative consequences. But until this recently published research appeared we’ve had little to no scientific support for our claim that consequences is the primary measure we should use when identifying and treating pornography addiction.

LYP says: We are really interested in trying  to understand why people become easily addicted, especially with  pornography and the impact it has on young people. We felt that this article tries to tackle the wider consequences of measuring that impact and we like the fact they’re looking at it from as scientific perspective. We also agree that it depends on the personality not necessary how much they watch. However we have noticed especially with the young people we work with that the more pornography they view the greater their need to look for more harder material to satisfy their desire.  Unfortunately they are not aware of the long term damage that may occur as their brain develops. 



So, religious people don’t watch pornography?

Research found in a recent American study, Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity: The Journal of Treatment & Prevention, has shown that a significant percentage of those amongst us who consider themselves religious still look at pornography on a regular basis.

 Many religious Americans consider watching porn to be deviant behaviour or a sinful addiction, and attempt to address it through preventative online software for individuals accessing porn or through therapy for people who are addicted to it.

The researchers presented participants with the evidence from the study showing them the discrepancy between reported and actual pornography use in those that consider themselves devout. Unsurprisingly, some highly religious participants did not like the results. They were also more likely than their non-religious peers to believe that the survey was conducted by politically motivated researchers.

There was found to be a correlation between religious states and online adult content use too. The researchers defined religious states as those with a higher percentage of individuals who self-identify as very religious and consider religion to be important to their daily lives. They found that there were more searches for sexual content on Google in these states.

Mark and Claire say: Here in the U.K. the LYP team has experienced the culture of fear in faith organisations. They are afraid to openly talk about pornography without being judged. Sadly there still remains a wall of secrecy due to fear of exposure, shame and guilt.  There’s also an in-house fear that talking about it will encourage young people to look for it and end up addicted. Pornography is only fuel for the emotional fire and most of the time there’s a deeper root of emotion that has not been addressed.

What do you think?

Parents fear for their mentally ill children


Recently a new survey commissioned by our friends at @MQmentalhealth has highlighted parents’ fears on mental health. The results report that two-thirds of parents are concerned that if their children developed a mental-illness during childhood there’s not enough of the right support available. The research also highlights valid worries concerning that mental-ill children may not be able to secure a job, find a partner, be put into care full-time or have a family as a result of their condition, in later life.

A survey of 2,061 adults, including 500 parents, found that 67% of parents believe their child may never recover from being diagnosed with mental illness. The survey was commissioned by MQ – Transforming Mental Health to find out if the parents think that the support is there and where there a knowledge gaps too.

The results have renewed concerns about how well equipped NHS children’s and adolescent mental health services are to deal with the growing number of young people experiencing problems such as acute anxiety.

About one in 10 children and young people aged five to 16 have been diagnosed with a mental disorder. The commonest conditions are conduct disorder (5.8%), anxiety (3%), hyperkinetic disorder (1.5%) and depression (0.9%), according to Office for National Statistics data from 2004.

Mark and Claire say:  We work in schools with young people with mental health problems through our self-esteem courses and see first hand the reality of young people struggling to cope with so many mental health issues that schools cannot cope in supporting them.  Love Young People also agrees and acknowledges that there aren’t enough resources to support young people growing up and this will only get worse as government funding has been dramatically cut over the last few years.  We will reap what we sow. 


Big Brother (UK) 2016 pushes negative boundaries

This year, two of Channel 5’s Big Brother inmates appeared to have sex live on air. Leaving little to the imagination Marco Pierre White jr and hostess Laura Carter engaged in bold foreplay and then proceeded to bed for more. The episode received in the region of 250 complaints out of 1.1 million viewers and was the highest draw of the series so far.

Bizarrely, White was given a ‘hall-pass’ for the length of the series by his fiance Kim Melville-Smith – so whilst one-hand we’re now able to see undramatised sexual acts live on television, we’re undermining the marriage union.

OFSTED are currently investigating the complaint to see if laws of indecency or broadcasting laws have been broken and breached.


What kind of message do you think this display sends when everything around is become increasingly pornified?

LYP team wonders what’s next?  The fact that channel 5 and other media organisations try to compete for anyone’s attention with constant sexual promiscuity is mystifying. It only reinforces their desperation as the housemates that appear on the show are showing symptoms of grabbing fame at any cost, as cheap as it will make them and show look. This brazen act of sexuality concern us  and that this is just the tip of the iceberg that is sadly melting away the sacredness of sexuality. We know they’re not the first and wont be the last.


New Zealand sex therapist discusses brain patterns in porn addiction

Mary Hodson is the spokes woman for Sex Therapy New Zealand. She has observed a connection between people with porn problems and the brain patterns of those with addictions.  She says research is yet to conclusively prove that the brains of people experiencing problems with porn are showing all the classic signs of addiction. A chemical change in the brain, probably linked to the feel-good hormone oxytocin, is likely to be proven soon.  Hodson prefers the term ‘Out of control sexual behaviour’ or OCSB to that of ‘addiction’. As public awareness increases the rise in porn connected discorders has risen to 40% of the case load at the organisations two North Island based centres.

Mark & Claire say:

This article is very interesting and reinforces the belief that watching pornography has a wider and deeper impact on the brain and consequently on our mental health. Although the article originates from New Zealand, we know Britain is facing the same issues and we are  also dealing with the lack of financial resources to prevent the situation getting worse. late-pornLYP is trying to bridge the gap. Please help us by spreading the word. #Preventionisbetterthancure.

This article was originally sourced and re-edited from The Big Read, NZ Herald article.

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Probe into sexual attacks amongst school children

Last April (2016) The Women and Equalities Committee launched the first government probe into the scale and impact of sexual harassment and connected violence in our UK schools.

Concerns have been raised that teachers are not able to protect children from this kind of behaviour. Sexual offences in schools were revealed that 5,500 took place over a 3 year period and that this figure included 600 rapes.

School age girls are having to change their own behaviour to counteract sexual bullying, this has included wearing trousers to school. This measure is stop having their underwear exposed by others revealing them which is seen as ‘normal’ behaviour nowadays.

Online pornography use has been cited as a concerning factor saying that it confuses and clouds issues surrounding consent for young people.

Mark & Claire say, “We sincerely hope the the government and schools will start taking this more seriously as we believe that the evidence is overwhelming regarding the link between online pornography and the increase in sexual harassment. Unfortunately it’s only when something tragically goes wrong that people wake up to the reality that we have a very big problem and something needs to be done now! LYP is trying to tackle this but feels like the problem is so massive we need more people onboard…if you’re interested in helping us, message us or send us an email“. 

Further evidence will be taken for Ofsted over the next few months to find out whether schools need to take evasive action.

What do you think? Have you been the subject of sexual harassment or violence at the hands of your classmates?