Pornography causing backward step in boys’ respect for girls, say victims and teachers

A recent article from Sky news below highlights the reason why LYP are still going into schools, so that we can educate young people about the dangers of online porn. Sadly not enough is being done by the government to keep the porn industry and other social media providers accountable for the hardcore sexual content they are wilfully allowing young people to access online.


Pornography causing backward step in boys’ respect for girls, say victims and teachersMessaging apps like Snapchat see girls sent abusive messages by boys of their age, and they feel unable to report them. Jason FarrellA woman who was sexually abused and raped as a child has waived her right to anonymity to speak out against the harmful affects of easily-accessible pornography.Dandy Doherty says she was sexually abused at the age of 11 and raped at the age of 15 – and that her abusers were the same age as her.She is one of many to contribute to the website Everyone’s Invited, but she’s waived her anonymity because she feels inaction by schools and parents has “trickled down” to create an abuse culture.Everyone's Invited website - testimonies uploaded to the site have prompted multiple police reports of abuse. Pic: Everyone's InvitedEveryone’s Invited – testimonies uploaded to the site have prompted multiple police reports of abuseMore than 14,000 allegations have now been made by school pupils on the website, which is gathering testimonies of sexual violence and abuse.”Consent needs to be talked about from very young age,” says Dandy.Advertisement “Pornography needs to be talked about from a very young age. “It’s not inappropriate to talk to a 10-year-old about sex, it’s inappropriate for a 10-year-old to be watching fake sex online and thinking that that’s what’s normal.More from UK”That’s the bad part. It shouldn’t be uncomfortable to have this conversation. “I was sexually assaulted, for the first time at 11 ,12, 13 by boys aged 11, and 12 and 13,” she continues. “I didn’t say anything about that at the time, I didn’t have the words for it. I didn’t understand it. “I didn’t know that sexual assault was a thing – after I was raped, I looked it up.”‘Children are being exposed to porn’ | The PledgeOn Thursday, the National Education Union (NEU) debated the issue at its virtual annual conference.General secretary of the NEU Mary Bousted told Sky News the behaviour of schoolchildren has been “corrupted” and “gone back” due to social media and access to pornography.She said: “It’s become ‘that’s the way things are’, and teachers in our service said they were unsure about how to deal with it and ‘if I stopped and dealt with it all the time, I would never get any teaching done’.”So, we need a national programme to help schools tackle this behaviour. “Dr Bousted added: “I think we’ve gone back in this respect.”I think the way girls are treated on social media, I think the fact that so many boys watch porn, that really has corrupted the way boys and girls think about each other.”It’s lowered girls’ expectations for how they should be treated by boys and its enabled too many boys to think that girls are just objects.”Do we need to protect ‘Generation Porn’? | The PledgePupils themselves are now asking questions about when behaviour crosses from natural sexual curiosity into abuse.The landscape of interaction is ever-changing. Schools and parents are struggling to keep up with new forms of communication online.A new Instagram account called Screen Grab Them invites victims to post abusive texts and Snapchats they have received, which show that all too often, the harassment is blatant.The messages include threats of rape, often when a boy’s advances are turned down.There are also derogatory conversations.In one, a girl is told: “Love I’m afraid to say it, but no-one is gonna rape u. “She replies asking: “Are you literally saying that I would be privileged for someone to rape me? “He says: “No – you would be lucky.”This photo illustration taken on March 22, 2018 shows a woman looking at Social Networking applications Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Whatsapp, Twitter, Messenger and Linkedin on a smartphone in Kuala Lumpur. / AFP PHOTO / Manan VATSYAYANA (Photo credit should read MANAN VATSYAYANA/AFP/Getty Images)
Abusive messages of this kind are shared on many social media apps popular with youngsters Ofsted has announced it will visit “a sample of schools and colleges where cases have been highlighted” as part of its emergency review. Ofsted chief executive Amanda Spielman told Sky News: “I have such a big concern about the fact that so many of these young people have felt unable to tell their school what’s been happening to them.”We need to understand these disincentives to reporting because many of these schools think that they have good routes – people that children can trust who they can talk to – and yet somehow, it’s not, it’s not always adding up.”So how do we make sure the pieces add up to something that gives young people the confidence to report and to talk about these things. “Young women like Dandy hope that by recounting their darkest childhood memories, tomorrow’s children won’t have to experience what they did.

THE ROYAL FAMILY TALK ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH

The Royal Family talk about mental health issues in this short video. Prince Harry and Prince William address their difficulties growing up without their mother, Princess Diana, who died in 1997. Click to see this moving tribute to their mother and also the importance of reaching out for professional help when in need.

Actor Adam Deacon talks opens up about his problems

Talented young actor Adam Deacon seemed to have the British Film Industry at this feet. He had spent years building up a formidable reputation through playing a string of trouble hard men in films like Kidulthood, Adulthood, Everywhere+Nowhere, Comedown and Montana. He even directed and wrote a lively comedy spoof called Anuvahood.  Having just wrapped up on Danny Boyle’s TV mini-series Babylon, it seemed to go wrong as he was reported to have engaged in a feud with fellow Brit-star Noel Clarke.  The former friends fell out over Deacon’s film Anuvahood, which Clarke publically criticized as a the former’s attempt to piggy back on his success.  Anuvahood, more like a spoof of Kidulthood and Adulthood, came and went on the cinemas to little fanfare but gained quite a following on D/L and DVD.

Adam Deacon has since gone public and explain what was behind his fall from fame.

Here’s a short clip from BBC 1Xtra where he explains the kind of help and care he received for his bi-polar condition (33 mins from the beginning).

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LYP says: Adam is not alone and LYP are constantly working with young people who are desperate for help but the stigma of mental health is too much for them to admit to, until it’s too late. Not only that we constantly see that the system set up to help them has been fundamentally squeezed of financial resources to the point that there are very long waiting lists. We are really happy that Adam and others are wanting to talk about it and get help for it and we ask that the government takes a responsibility to solve the problem.

Love Young People supports Thorn

We support Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore’s organisation Thorn. Founded in 2008, its purpose is to defeat human trafficers and child pornographers. In the last year it has tracked down 6,000 missing girls and boys.  The actor’s are best known for having winning streaks at the cinema, predominantly in the 80s-00s; films like Dude Where’s My Car, Bobby, St Elmo’s Fire, Ghost, A Few Good Men, We’re No Angels and so many more.

The couple’s initiative is nearly ten years old is gaining traction the bigger the organisation reputation grows. Their cause is admirable and such a crucial one to raise awareness for as such abuse is ever-present and it’s a despicable evil that must be stamped out at all costs.

Here’s a clip of Kutcher talking on the Today Show, an American TV show where important people and celebrities are interviewed.  He speaks about how Thorn has been working on digital tools to fight against websites where children and adolescents are bought and sold. “We’ve built a tool to help law enforcement prioritize their caseload, and recover victims and find traffickers,” he says about his organization’s efforts in 2016. “And we’ve found and identified and recovered over 6,000 trafficking victims this year. And we’ve found, identified and recovered 2,000 traffickers,” said Kutcher, during the interview. To see the whole interview, click here.

Mental Health Awareness Week 2017

Love Young People will continue to raise the public perception about mental health in the UK and our youth as part of our remit in schools. Last week was a very important time for us as it is a period that brings to light a very real issue. It’s also an area of health that needs constant attention and increased resource. NHS cuts are very pressing and dwindling funding to aid those most in need is a very real factor.

2017’s theme for Mental Health Awareness Week  is ‘Surviving or Thriving?’ If you feel like your mental health might be getting you down, here’s two things you can do over the next week…
1) Read their brand new article on the selfharmUK website about how you can help to change how you might be feeling: https://www.selfharm.co.uk/articles/mental-health-awareness-week-2017
2) Check out their social media channels every day this week as we they be posting as many helpful links they can find all about how you can stop just surviving – and start THRIVING!! #MHAW17

Seven quick tips for teenage self-esteem

A feeling of self-worth can be elusive when you are young.  Sign-posts are hard to find and your friends can’t always be your moral compass. You are standing on shifting sands with your parents. They love and care for you but how much do they really understand. Take a look at this cheat sheet for your parents and guardians. If not to print out, perhaps these can act as primers in conversation. Some points may be of more use than others.

At Love Young People, we elaborate and give you important exercises to work through to understand why it’s sometimes only natural to feel like an outsider, but that there are many of us that are in the same boat, and also come out of the other side.

  • Set boundaries and expect your teen to follow rules
  • Be generous with praise
  • Encourage joint decision-making and invite opinions
  • Stay connected through all forms of communication (social media / phone / talk)
  • Be supportive during a conflict yet remain objective to rights and wrongs
  • Keep criticism constructive
  • Encourage and mentor their individual talents, but don’t be a showbiz parent

The formula for happiness

Recently a YouTube went viral on the World Wide Web claiming that an algorithm for true happiness had been discovered.  Reading between the lines, this was simply a nice counter-balance to all the global anxiety felt at the moment being fed to us through our media channels. Mo Gawdat, the CEO at Google, lost his son and developed a grief coping method. By sharing this algortihm he believes he’s found a way of generating happiness.

The expression, ‘Glass half guy/girl – glass half-empty guy/girl…’ is a well-known tag used to over simplify our outlooks. Do you look on the bright side or is everything always stacked against you. The sad loss of his son gives this story gravitas, yet, it’s not a cure. But at least it’s a positive way through for us all to us and his sharing is the gift not the actual theory.

We wish there was a miracle over night cure for wellness and self-esteem but what Love Young People’s team can offer are lasting solutions that will endure and help you over time. Such click-bait makes for interesting discussions around the water cooler at school or work, yet on the positive side, at least this kind of ‘uplifting’ diversion exists. Does it amount to anything more than other click-bait showing dogs falling down the stairs or cats that look like Adolf Hitler?

We, at LYP, can help with happiness and well-being but we don’t have an algorithm.

Click here to make your own mind up. Is Mr Gawdat onto something?

Sex Education in schools finally given radical shake up

A welcome review and change to the way sex education is taught in schools has been updated as of a ruling by Government, reached on 1 March 2017 in the UK.  The revised programme will now incorporate modules on how modern relationships work. With the onslaught of online technology and the unprecedented impact that it’s had on everybody’s life, including children and young adults, it’s a long overdue revision that is being introduced in every school as compulsory.

Years of campaigning, both for and against, ended on the 1st March 2017 when the Secretary of State, Justine Greening, revealed the amendment to the Children and Social Work Bill.  The last time the curriculum was revised was in 2000. In 2017 more of an emphasis will be placed on relationship education as well as the perils of looking at online porn and sexting.

Amongst many considerations Love Young People echo the concerns of what may be included and omitted from the programme.  When it comes to the newly entitled Relationships and Sex Education curriculum, the ultimate task is to help young people feel more in control of their actions. To be more engaged with their emotions, more invested in their community, more aware of their value, and to be mindful of others and the impact misuse of sex and relations can have on themselves too.

Whilst this revision is welcomed in some quarters, there are some concerns from teachers, parents and faith groups that the resources won’t be sufficient enough to support a successful rollout.

LYP says: At last the government has seen sense in paving the way for mandatory sex eduction and relationships teaching. We now have a few more hurdles to jump when it comes to what is taught to students. The sooner they get going with this, the better. LYP will definitely be interested to see what happens next and hopefully this will start to rebuild the long-term damage that online pornography has created with children and young adults with their relationships and sexuality.

Stormzy speaks about his battles with depression

Popular Grime MC, Stormzy spoke to Channel 4 News about his battle with depression. He implored young people to address the issue head-on and to seek help when they are feeling very lonely and isolated.

Stormzy addresses this depression on his next LP/CD/Download/Mixtape Gang Signs and Prayers, and speaks about the fact that even though he openly promotes positivity and confidence, he still has dark moments in private regardless of his personal successes.

For the full 25 minute interview visit: HERE

LYP says: We are grateful that celebrities like Stormzy are willing to talk about difficult issues like depression. We hope his message can help someone in real need.

Take a look, listen and pass it on.

Protecting the young from online porn

Young people and children may not be looking for them. But porn is definitely looking out for them.

Today we live in a world where over half of teens own a smartphone or an iPod, which, without restrictions, and if the owner was inclined, could be used as a portable x-rated cinema, almost as easily as it could be used as a phone.

In 2008 YouGov conducted a survey of nearly 1500 American youths. Here is a handful of statistics for you to digest:

  1. 9 out of 10 boys and 6 out of 10 girls have been exposed to pornography before the age of 18.
  2. Average first exposure to pornography among boys is 12 years old.
  3. 83% of boys and 57% of girls have seen group sex online.
  4. 69% of boys and 55% of girls have seen same-sex intercourse online.
  5. 32% of boys and 18% of girls have seen bestiality (sex between a person and an animal) online.
  6. 15% of boys and 9% of girls have seen child pornography.
  7. 71% of teens hide online behaviour from their parents.
  8. 28% of 16-17 year olds have been unintentionally exposed to porn online.
  9. 20% of 16-year-olds and 30% of 17-year-olds have received a sext.

LYP says: We know that these are statistics from America, however we also know that we, in the UK, tend to follow the examples of American teen culture.  This is why LYP is active in schools trying to educate them to prevent young people from being casualties of this addictive drug. If young people are constantly exposed to this level of sexuality online then it will change their behaviour in relationships and consequently if left over a long period of time, it can severely effect the culture of society. That is why we are very much relieved to hear that the Government is going to make sex and relationships education (SRE) mandatory in all schools across England and Wales.