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Who watches the most porn?

Please read the interesting article on Fight The New Drug by Matt Hussey from results he has compiled some very interesting data about international porn usage.
Take a look at the graphs below to see the extent that porn has saturated our Internet browsing habits. The graphs have been segmented by country.

Visits to porn sites account for nearly 4.5 per cent of website traffic at the time of the survey completed in partnership with SimilarWeb and ExtremeTech. In other numbers that 4.4 billion visits world wide per month. The showings are that the most repressed and conservative nations are the highest users which should tell us something about human nature.

As porn’s availability has risen, so have its devastating effects on people, relationships, and society at large. As therapist John Woods recently wrote, pornography addiction, “is no longer just a private problem. It is a public health problem.”

See the full article here for context.

LYP says: This is a great insight into what’s really happening behind the growth of online pornography and who’s driving it. We also are aware that there is an increased demand for more specialist, darker genres which in turn are influencing a younger generation to grow up making decisions about their relationships through the lens of pornography.

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What is cyberbullying?

While the emotional aspects of bullying continue to be devastating, the internet and social media have changed the way children experience bullying.

There have always been school bullies. There have been as omnipresent as the teachers, surly dinner ladies, funny smells and Bunsen burners. Whilst many of us may angle the old chestnut that it nothing new is inaccurate.

In most cases bullies existed during school hours. Now there’s no off switch. Cyberbullying is a new order and because it wasn’t around during our education years our duty as parents is to learn about it and get informed.

Love Young People has found this great infodump to help you learn all there is to know about cyberbullying, just in case you’ve never heard of it, don’t understand it’s impact and maybe need to help a loved one by learning what they may be going through. See how you can help because it’s very real, but there are avoidance techniques.

Visit: https://www.internetmatters.org/issues/cyberbullying/learn-about-it/ to see how you can help.

LYP says: Over the last few years we’ve been listening to young people’s testimonies about how they’ve been bullied online and we’ve also noticed a dramatic increase in the number of mental health issues arising through cyberbullying. We know some schools are more proactive in addressing the rise of online bullying but sadly most schools are not. That is why LYP is trying to work alongside young people in and out of schools to improve their self-esteem through workshops and courses.

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What are children learning from online porn?

The NSPCC carried out a survey of more than 1,000 children aged 11-16, and found that at least half had been exposed to online porn already.  Of this group, almost all (94%) have seen it by age 14.

A very high percentage of the  boys surveyed revealed that they wanted to copy the behaviour they had seen watching porn. These answers came despite more than 75% of the kids agreeing that porn didn’t help them understand the rules of consent.

The survey also showed that young people are likely to see online porn accidentally and for almost 66%, first exposure to porn occurred in their own home.

Many of the girls were reported worried about how porn would make boys see girls and the possible impact on attitudes to sex and relationships.

“It can make a boy not look for love, just look for sex and it can pressure us girls to act and look and behave in a certain way before we might be ready for it,” Anonymous 13-year-old girl.girl looking at computer monitor

LYP says:

We are very concerned with the findings of this survey by the NSPCC and believe that society has a moral obligation to address these issues now by becoming educated and also by raising awareness. Sadly only a few people and organisations are really making a difference. We need more people to join us and take a stand against the harmful effects of pornography on young people before it’s too late. If you want to join us than contact us on our Facebook page.

Are you depressed?

I was once working in an office and I heard a colleague announce that she’d seen Clare, who was signed off work with severe depression, standing on a street corner laughing.  My colleague obviously didn’t understand how depression works because there are always ways to mask our feelings and if you are a depressive or feeling depressed then you aren’t necessarily miserable 24.7. There are subtler behavior patterns to indicate that you may be suffering from this mood disorder.

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‘The Black Dog of Depression’

 Here are some indicators that may help.

You’re hiding your feelings

You can’t tell if you’re happy or unhappy

You’ve constructed a busy life

You don’t understand what makes you angry

You may begin to act erratically

You no longer get joy out of the things you love

You’ve gotten too introspective

You can’t think clearly or make decisions

LYP says:

Mental health is a difficult topic for employers to address as there’s no fixed way of identifying it. So articles like this can be positive in asking and challenging the reader to think about their own situation. However it may be also be damaging as people tend to self-diagnose their symptoms rather than getting professional help? Visit your GP if you are concerned or someone you know has expressed worries about you. Likewise if you know someone who could be suffering alone.

Sex Before Kissing

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Increased porn usage has led to an equivalent rise in partner rape. In an Australian report called Don’t Send Me That, 600 girls aged 15-19 from all over the country to ask about their realationships.

Online sexual abuse and harrassment were reported as a normal part of their day. The expectations of boys they knew were unrealistic and based on scenarios and porn actors seen online. Adolescent boys and teens from the same age bracket and older are demanding vaginal, anal and oral sex in exchange for open affection like kissing.

With the online availability of sex being ominipresent, with few affective prohibitive steps to keep it age protected actually working, the situation is becoming gradually worse and more prolific.

Some girls are beign pressure to look, groom and dress like pornstars and are ostracised and singled out for not complying. Naked pictures are demanded now as preclusion to a date.

Read this article to learn about the the extent of this problem, read the full article here: LINK

These are the words of Lucy, aged 15, one of 600 young Australian women and girls who took part in a just-released survey commissioned by Plan Australia and Our Watch. The survey, conducted by Ipsos, gathered responses from the girls and young women aged 15-19 in all states and territories.

In the survey report, entitled’Don’t Send Me That’ participants reported that online sexual abuse and harassment were becoming a normal part of their everyday interactions. And while the behaviour seemed so common, more than 80% said it was unacceptable for boyfriends to request naked images.

LYP says:

We are facing an unprecedented increase of sexual harassment in schools. Australia is not the only country unable to cope with the consequences of online pornography. Here in the United Kingdom a recent parliament committee report stated a third of girls are being sexually harassed in schools. The schools are not coping and are desperate for guidance and support. That is why LYP is providing prevention strategy tools to help schools and young people to fight the problem.

 

The likelihood of your teen son watching porn is very high

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In the UK the average age of a young boys exposure to online pornography is 11 years old. In a recent survey 81% of 3000 boys said that they look at it.

A new book by Deana Puccio deals with this and other issues for parents in the digital. Top of the list of major concerns is the access to technology and after that the ubiquity of online pornography.

“There is a risk to this generation that online pornography could damage the sexual sensitivities of boys and their future relationships,” said Deana.  “However, girls, who are far less likely to be interested in pornography at this stage in their lives, are at risk too, from their partners and future partners who could mistake the fiction of online pornography to be the norms when it comes to having normal, satisfying sex”.

Growing up, expectations need to be realistic. The vast majority of women in pornographic films have surgically enhanced breasts and no pubic hair. By normalising such things, pornography could be conditioning boys to have unrealistic expectations.

Porn is having an impact on they way boys interact and react and conversate with / about girls their own age. Sexist, misogynistic, homophobic and racist language and attitudes are common. In the book, Deana list the kinds of everyday sexism boys use and girls overhear: “On her knees, that’s where she belongs”; “I would destroy her”; “She’s a f*ck and chuck.”

What needs to be done to combat this?

LYP says: We fear that the impact of pornography is having epidemic affect on young people’s lives. It normalises sex on such degrading level that it’s only a matter of time that society will hit a tipping point, unless schools, governments and parents start taking this seriously. Recent studies from the Women and Equalities Commision have stated that a third of all girls in schools have been sexually harassed. This is only the tip of the iceberg. That is why LYP is trying to visit schools and warn young people of the dangers of online pornography. Join us by speaking to your local secondary school about their code of practice and how they combat sexual harassment and whether it’s being used effectively.  

Local authorities need to protect youth services

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A new report from Unison, A Future at Risk, said an estimated £387m has been cut from youth service budgets since 2010, adding that there are about £26m more cutbacks on the way. 91% of the cuts will effect the poorest amongst us. Young black, gay, gang members, transgender and those in social care at the most risk of being failed by the system. Victims of sexual abuse and drug addiction are also counted amongst those losing out.

UK youth services can no longer support the number of cases. Take a look at these statistics and you will be shocked at the scale of this failure to our young people in the UK.

Some 600 youth centres have closed down, 3,650 youth staff have lost their jobs, and 139,000 youth places have been axed.  Further information from 180 councils suggests that young people most in need are increasingly being left with nowhere to turn for support.

Unison compiled information from every local authority in the UK that has responsibility for youth services and asked them what became of their funding between 2014 and 2016.

Unison also surveyed its members working in youth services for the report, on how they saw the changes affecting young people and communities on the ground.

Green Party leader Natalie Bennett said these findings laid bare the very real damage austerity had done to our communities.

“As a society, we should be prioritising giving young people the best possible start in life. But our government has shown it is willing to slash vital youth services for the sake of short-term cash savings – which is both reckless and short-sighted.”

LYP says:  We agree with Natalie Bennett, it’s the same old rhetoric and since the 19th century governments from each side of the political fence have financially ‘yoyo’d’ the very essence of informal education because basically it’s so hard measure and quantify the outcomes. We must leave the youth work service alone and stop interfering with young people’s lives as if it is a business. All these financial cuts will only destroy the  good work so far and is still yet to happen. At some point in the future there will be a price we will all have to pay as a society for not having the right youth provision services in place. Only time will tell what price that will be!