Are you depressed?

I was once working in an office and I heard a colleague announce that she’d seen Clare, who was signed off work with severe depression, standing on a street corner laughing.  My colleague obviously didn’t understand how depression works because there are always ways to mask our feelings and if you are a depressive or feeling depressed then you aren’t necessarily miserable 24.7. There are subtler behavior patterns to indicate that you may be suffering from this mood disorder.

'The Black Dog of Depression'

‘The Black Dog of Depression’

 Here are some indicators that may help.

You’re hiding your feelings

You can’t tell if you’re happy or unhappy

You’ve constructed a busy life

You don’t understand what makes you angry

You may begin to act erratically

You no longer get joy out of the things you love

You’ve gotten too introspective

You can’t think clearly or make decisions

LYP says:

Mental health is a difficult topic for employers to address as there’s no fixed way of identifying it. So articles like this can be positive in asking and challenging the reader to think about their own situation. However it may be also be damaging as people tend to self-diagnose their symptoms rather than getting professional help? Visit your GP if you are concerned or someone you know has expressed worries about you. Likewise if you know someone who could be suffering alone.

Sex Before Kissing


Increased porn usage has led to an equivalent rise in partner rape. In an Australian report called Don’t Send Me That, 600 girls aged 15-19 from all over the country to ask about their realationships.

Online sexual abuse and harrassment were reported as a normal part of their day. The expectations of boys they knew were unrealistic and based on scenarios and porn actors seen online. Adolescent boys and teens from the same age bracket and older are demanding vaginal, anal and oral sex in exchange for open affection like kissing.

With the online availability of sex being ominipresent, with few affective prohibitive steps to keep it age protected actually working, the situation is becoming gradually worse and more prolific.

Some girls are beign pressure to look, groom and dress like pornstars and are ostracised and singled out for not complying. Naked pictures are demanded now as preclusion to a date.

Read this article to learn about the the extent of this problem, read the full article here: LINK

These are the words of Lucy, aged 15, one of 600 young Australian women and girls who took part in a just-released survey commissioned by Plan Australia and Our Watch. The survey, conducted by Ipsos, gathered responses from the girls and young women aged 15-19 in all states and territories.

In the survey report, entitled’Don’t Send Me That’ participants reported that online sexual abuse and harassment were becoming a normal part of their everyday interactions. And while the behaviour seemed so common, more than 80% said it was unacceptable for boyfriends to request naked images.

LYP says:

We are facing an unprecedented increase of sexual harassment in schools. Australia is not the only country unable to cope with the consequences of online pornography. Here in the United Kingdom a recent parliament committee report stated a third of girls are being sexually harassed in schools. The schools are not coping and are desperate for guidance and support. That is why LYP is providing prevention strategy tools to help schools and young people to fight the problem.


The likelihood of your teen son watching porn is very high


In the UK the average age of a young boys exposure to online pornography is 11 years old. In a recent survey 81% of 3000 boys said that they look at it.

A new book by Deana Puccio deals with this and other issues for parents in the digital. Top of the list of major concerns is the access to technology and after that the ubiquity of online pornography.

“There is a risk to this generation that online pornography could damage the sexual sensitivities of boys and their future relationships,” said Deana.  “However, girls, who are far less likely to be interested in pornography at this stage in their lives, are at risk too, from their partners and future partners who could mistake the fiction of online pornography to be the norms when it comes to having normal, satisfying sex”.

Growing up, expectations need to be realistic. The vast majority of women in pornographic films have surgically enhanced breasts and no pubic hair. By normalising such things, pornography could be conditioning boys to have unrealistic expectations.

Porn is having an impact on they way boys interact and react and conversate with / about girls their own age. Sexist, misogynistic, homophobic and racist language and attitudes are common. In the book, Deana list the kinds of everyday sexism boys use and girls overhear: “On her knees, that’s where she belongs”; “I would destroy her”; “She’s a f*ck and chuck.”

What needs to be done to combat this?

LYP says: We fear that the impact of pornography is having epidemic affect on young people’s lives. It normalises sex on such degrading level that it’s only a matter of time that society will hit a tipping point, unless schools, governments and parents start taking this seriously. Recent studies from the Women and Equalities Commision have stated that a third of all girls in schools have been sexually harassed. This is only the tip of the iceberg. That is why LYP is trying to visit schools and warn young people of the dangers of online pornography. Join us by speaking to your local secondary school about their code of practice and how they combat sexual harassment and whether it’s being used effectively.  

Local authorities need to protect youth services


A new report from Unison, A Future at Risk, said an estimated £387m has been cut from youth service budgets since 2010, adding that there are about £26m more cutbacks on the way. 91% of the cuts will effect the poorest amongst us. Young black, gay, gang members, transgender and those in social care at the most risk of being failed by the system. Victims of sexual abuse and drug addiction are also counted amongst those losing out.

UK youth services can no longer support the number of cases. Take a look at these statistics and you will be shocked at the scale of this failure to our young people in the UK.

Some 600 youth centres have closed down, 3,650 youth staff have lost their jobs, and 139,000 youth places have been axed.  Further information from 180 councils suggests that young people most in need are increasingly being left with nowhere to turn for support.

Unison compiled information from every local authority in the UK that has responsibility for youth services and asked them what became of their funding between 2014 and 2016.

Unison also surveyed its members working in youth services for the report, on how they saw the changes affecting young people and communities on the ground.

Green Party leader Natalie Bennett said these findings laid bare the very real damage austerity had done to our communities.

“As a society, we should be prioritising giving young people the best possible start in life. But our government has shown it is willing to slash vital youth services for the sake of short-term cash savings – which is both reckless and short-sighted.”

LYP says:  We agree with Natalie Bennett, it’s the same old rhetoric and since the 19th century governments from each side of the political fence have financially ‘yoyo’d’ the very essence of informal education because basically it’s so hard measure and quantify the outcomes. We must leave the youth work service alone and stop interfering with young people’s lives as if it is a business. All these financial cuts will only destroy the  good work so far and is still yet to happen. At some point in the future there will be a price we will all have to pay as a society for not having the right youth provision services in place. Only time will tell what price that will be! 


More than 33% of women watch porn regularly


A survey was managed by Typeform on behalf of the magazine Marie Claire has highlighted how portable technologies have made porn more accessible.

3000 female readers were asked about how often and how they sourced their porn. 90 % of the sample said they watched porn on their home computers and smartphones. Women’s relationships with porn has been largely left unstudied and is hugely ignored.

Of the respondents, 70 % of the women were aged between 18 and 34. More than half of them were in a relationship. Porn addiction in females is bound to be on the rise too. What are the reasons behind the need, has the desire always been there but it’s been disguised up until now because such surveys did not exist and the ways to access pornography in the past filled with obstructions?

LYP says: We think it’s a reflection of today’s westernised culture: independent, detached, isolated and empty.  It’s easy to access porn and requires no effort for instant gratification  unlike sex which requires a lot more work and may not always be as rewarding. Westernised women have now been given permission to write their own rules and they don’t need men to satisfy them anymore. The union of men and women has become redundant in the art of romance and intimacy. Sex in relationships has become shallow and meaningless because pornography has changed the way we view ourselves in the context of relationships. 

Does pornography kill love?


A girl from Texas, now a devout Christian living in Dallas Forth Worth first saw porn at the age of ten. She then secretly became addicted in her teens and early20s allowing herself to become addicted and allowing it to negatively affect her sexual relations with her partners.

Today, Chiara is a lifestyle blogger, letterer and digital marketer in her late 20s. She’s also a recovering porn addict, an observant Christian living in the Dallas/Fort Worth area and a public supporter of #PornKillsLove (PKL), a social media-based anti-porn campaign organized by anti-porn activist group Fight the New Drug.

Love is essentially edited out of pornography and it edited a false transaction, the reactions are over accentuated and it gets no deeper than the noises and profiling. The nonprofit organization’s stated mission is to ‘raise awareness on the harmful effects of pornography through creative mediums,’ one of which is #PornKillsLove. They have over 21,000 followers on Twitter too.

Chiara, has been porn-free for over two years now and doesn’t let occasional slips derail her commitment. She is celibate and a reborn virgin and is also active in her church’s addictions ministry. Most importantly, she seems really happy.

For more information about PKL visit here.

LYP says: The notion that women can be addicted to pornography is new concept to most people in society but in fact the statistics in the USA state that 30% of pornography addicts are women. Sadly we don’t have those statistics for the UK yet, but we wouldn’t be surprised if it was close to that here in UK. When we teach in schools we are beginning to see an increase in girls admitting to reading about pornography through sexual literature. This is not unusual because of how different the brain works with girls compared to boys. We wonder whether there’s enough information and support for women who are addicted to pornography. LYP has developed a specific girl/women pornography awareness course due to the increase of young girls needing just as much support as boys.  

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Porn useage – Quantity vs. Treatment Level

A new study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, looks at the factors that drive people into treatment for problematic porn use.

The scientist, Dr Gola wants to determine if the frequency of porn use or consequences related to porn use is more important. Unsurprisingly, when diagnosing and treating porn addicts the amount of porn a person uses is considerably less relevant than his or her porn-related consequences.

Preoccupation to the point of obsession with highly objectified pornographic imagery, and loss of control over the use of pornography, typically evidenced by failed attempts to quit or cut back. Negative consequences related to porn use can be diminished relationships, trouble at work or in school, depression, isolation, anxiety, loss of interest in previously enjoyable activities, shame, and sexual dysfunction with real world partners, financial woes, legal issues, etc.

As you may have noticed, none of these criteria mention how much porn a person is viewing. Porn addiction is comparable to substance addiction disorders where it’s not how much you drink/use, it’s the impact that drinking has on their lives.

In recent years, of course, we’ve seen numerous studies linking the amount of porn use to potential negative consequences. But until this recently published research appeared we’ve had little to no scientific support for our claim that consequences is the primary measure we should use when identifying and treating pornography addiction.

LYP says: We are really interested in trying  to understand why people become easily addicted, especially with  pornography and the impact it has on young people. We felt that this article tries to tackle the wider consequences of measuring that impact and we like the fact they’re looking at it from as scientific perspective. We also agree that it depends on the personality not necessary how much they watch. However we have noticed especially with the young people we work with that the more pornography they view the greater their need to look for more harder material to satisfy their desire.  Unfortunately they are not aware of the long term damage that may occur as their brain develops.