So, religious people don’t watch pornography?

Research found in a recent American study, Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity: The Journal of Treatment & Prevention, has shown that a significant percentage of those amongst us who consider themselves religious still look at pornography on a regular basis.

 Many religious Americans consider watching porn to be deviant behaviour or a sinful addiction, and attempt to address it through preventative online software for individuals accessing porn or through therapy for people who are addicted to it.

The researchers presented participants with the evidence from the study showing them the discrepancy between reported and actual pornography use in those that consider themselves devout. Unsurprisingly, some highly religious participants did not like the results. They were also more likely than their non-religious peers to believe that the survey was conducted by politically motivated researchers.

There was found to be a correlation between religious states and online adult content use too. The researchers defined religious states as those with a higher percentage of individuals who self-identify as very religious and consider religion to be important to their daily lives. They found that there were more searches for sexual content on Google in these states.

Mark and Claire say: Here in the U.K. the LYP team has experienced the culture of fear in faith organisations. They are afraid to openly talk about pornography without being judged. Sadly there still remains a wall of secrecy due to fear of exposure, shame and guilt.  There’s also an in-house fear that talking about it will encourage young people to look for it and end up addicted. Pornography is only fuel for the emotional fire and most of the time there’s a deeper root of emotion that has not been addressed.

What do you think?

Big Brother (UK) 2016 pushes negative boundaries

This year, two of Channel 5’s Big Brother inmates appeared to have sex live on air. Leaving little to the imagination Marco Pierre White jr and hostess Laura Carter engaged in bold foreplay and then proceeded to bed for more. The episode received in the region of 250 complaints out of 1.1 million viewers and was the highest draw of the series so far.

Bizarrely, White was given a ‘hall-pass’ for the length of the series by his fiance Kim Melville-Smith – so whilst one-hand we’re now able to see undramatised sexual acts live on television, we’re undermining the marriage union.

OFSTED are currently investigating the complaint to see if laws of indecency or broadcasting laws have been broken and breached.

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What kind of message do you think this display sends when everything around is become increasingly pornified?

LYP team wonders what’s next?  The fact that channel 5 and other media organisations try to compete for anyone’s attention with constant sexual promiscuity is mystifying. It only reinforces their desperation as the housemates that appear on the show are showing symptoms of grabbing fame at any cost, as cheap as it will make them and show look. This brazen act of sexuality concern us  and that this is just the tip of the iceberg that is sadly melting away the sacredness of sexuality. We know they’re not the first and wont be the last.

New Zealand sex therapist discusses brain patterns in porn addiction

Mary Hodson is the spokes woman for Sex Therapy New Zealand. She has observed a connection between people with porn problems and the brain patterns of those with addictions.  She says research is yet to conclusively prove that the brains of people experiencing problems with porn are showing all the classic signs of addiction. A chemical change in the brain, probably linked to the feel-good hormone oxytocin, is likely to be proven soon.  Hodson prefers the term ‘Out of control sexual behaviour’ or OCSB to that of ‘addiction’. As public awareness increases the rise in porn connected discorders has risen to 40% of the case load at the organisations two North Island based centres.

Mark & Claire say:

This article is very interesting and reinforces the belief that watching pornography has a wider and deeper impact on the brain and consequently on our mental health. Although the article originates from New Zealand, we know Britain is facing the same issues and we are  also dealing with the lack of financial resources to prevent the situation getting worse. late-pornLYP is trying to bridge the gap. Please help us by spreading the word. #Preventionisbetterthancure.

This article was originally sourced and re-edited from The Big Read, NZ Herald article.

Probe into sexual attacks amongst school children

Last April (2016) The Women and Equalities Committee launched the first government probe into the scale and impact of sexual harassment and connected violence in our UK schools.

Concerns have been raised that teachers are not able to protect children from this kind of behaviour. Sexual offences in schools were revealed that 5,500 took place over a 3 year period and that this figure included 600 rapes.

School age girls are having to change their own behaviour to counteract sexual bullying, this has included wearing trousers to school. This measure is stop having their underwear exposed by others revealing them which is seen as ‘normal’ behaviour nowadays.

Online pornography use has been cited as a concerning factor saying that it confuses and clouds issues surrounding consent for young people.

Mark & Claire say, “We sincerely hope the the government and schools will start taking this more seriously as we believe that the evidence is overwhelming regarding the link between online pornography and the increase in sexual harassment. Unfortunately it’s only when something tragically goes wrong that people wake up to the reality that we have a very big problem and something needs to be done now! LYP is trying to tackle this but feels like the problem is so massive we need more people onboard…if you’re interested in helping us, message us or send us an email  office@loveyoungpeople.com“. 

Further evidence will be taken for Ofsted over the next few months to find out whether schools need to take evasive action.

What do you think? Have you been the subject of sexual harassment or violence at the hands of your classmates?

Jack Wills ads banned. Where do you stand?

Underwear and clothing designer, Jack Wills’ has had a new catalogue and ad campaign run into trouble. The watchdog has banned them from circulation deeming the photos and sales copy ‘sexually forward’ as opposed to ‘flirtatious’.

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Representatives from the brand argued that they target18 to 24-year-old university students and not younger teenagers, adding that the catalogue was mailed out in a sealed paper envelope and the online site has an under-18 restriction for signing up to receive communications.

Jack wills is not the first and won’t be the last to advertise with young sexy models lying on a bed. This part is true! But is it right for them to do that and are they being cheap by resorting to the oldest advertising trick in the world? Perhaps if those models were hanging by the swimming pool dressed in swim wear I wouldn’t be bothered. So my conclusion would be that it’s the context that is suggesting something sexual and perhaps it might encourage young people to be sexual or to take risks in their sexual behaviour? This is purely subjective and perhaps jack wills knows that’s hard to prove. However they’re not naive and I’m sure they know that this is treading a fine line with advertising decency and moral behaviour young people but I have feeling they won’t be the last company to do that. After all sex does sell products.

Here are a few of the photos (will add some in). Please comment below if you think Jack Wills have been unduly singled out, where other brands run roughshod over taste and taboo boundaries.

 

 

Sex Box & The Pornification of Us

Love Young People (LYP) found this thoughtful article about the ‘pornification’ of our society. The think piece revolves in part around a new Channel 4 TV show called Sex Box in which candidates can experience sexual firsts – and deal with couple problems by having sex in an enclosed box. The author, Rachel Gardner of Romance Academy discusses a time when there was a mysterious allure to sex but that nowadays porn has put everything up front and centre for ridicule and frank, emotionless scrutiny. This show also celebrates exhibitionism and it’s not alone. Even emojis have been pornified, so what chance do our young people have to navigate their own sexual course?

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Mark & Claire say –

Rachel Gardner has provided us with a moral challenge. How do we approach the idea of sex without ruining the intimacy?

Clearly, we all know that sex is more than just physical exercise, it’s all a lot more intricate than that. Therefore here at LYP, we believe sex to be a very emotionally powerful and sacred experience that should be respected.  That doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t learn more about it through exploration – we also need to talk openly about it.

However, what the porn and sex industry tries to do is to remove or destroy the intimacy and reduce us to using each other like products in an ever increasing consumer culture.

Perhaps the media is merely a puppet to the current values of society. Think about it.

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You can read the full article here: link

News: Addiction

I took a read of this interesting article by Maia Szalavitz called the ‘The Myth of Addiction’.   It tries to dispel the myth that only one sort of personality is more likely to end up being an addict. Instead any one of us could end up being an addicted to something. I wonder if it’s partly to do with environment as well? for example did you know that children in care are 30% more likely to end up in prison!

In a short, it asks us to reassess our perception of what makes us addicts. One of the conclusions it asks us to consider is that, “An addictive personality, is if you will, multifaceted. It doesn’t really exist as an entity of its own.”

The media portrays addicts as ‘fiends with anti-social habits’. Only 18% of addicts, for example, have a personality disorder characterised by lying, stealing, lack of conscience, and manipulative antisocial behavior. This is more than four times the rate seen in typical people, but it still means that 82% of us don’t fit the media’s caricature of addiction.

Follow this link to read the whole article and feel free to comment.lyp-v_black_web2.jpg